供养者
Provider / Walking ATM Boyfriend
gōng yǎng zhě
供养者 (Provider / Sustainer) describes a man whose role in a relationship is reduced to a single function: providing money. Not a partner, not a lover, not a companion — a walking ATM with a heartbeat. The term comes from the vocabulary of Chinese dating coaches, who popularized a taxonomy of male roles: the 供养者 (provider — pays for everything, receives nothing), the 情人 (lover — desired but not depended on), and the ideal man who somehow manages to be both. In the 供养者 archetype, the tragedy is not just financial exploitation — it's emotional invisibility. He pays for dinner, covers the rent, buys the bags, and in return receives tolerance. Not love. Not desire. Just the grim transactional calculus of a relationship where one person's only value is their wallet.